Now that the craziness of September has come and gone (how is it already fall?!), I’m hoping to get back to blogging during my fringe moments. After so many 3:30am wake up calls last month, mornings haven’t been my friend lately so I thought I’d sneak a few moments to write during lunch.
Boy, did I need that reminder.
When work and personal life invade my time at home, I start feeling inadequate. I don’t know where those people with perfect hair, clothes, houses, jobs, AND social lives get the energy. I like to think of myself as pretty put together and full of enthusiasm for any task at hand but I can’t possibly be on top of everything all the time. In the last month, it was my house that suffered.
Instead of focusing on just how much I have done in the last six weeks, I’ve been focusing on the haven’ts. The lawn that didn’t get mowed, the laundry that is sitting in piles, the dishes that sat in the sink forever, the books I haven’t gotten to finish, the phone calls I’ve had to ignore because I just can’t all the time, the blog posts I’ve just set aside for some other time.
But really, those haven’ts are because of the haves. I worked my tail off last month and have a lot to show for it. I have even gotten mostly caught up at work in the last few days. I have manged to devote many hours to making memories with my friends. I have done
it all most of it with a smile on my face.
That article was such a great reminder of what I am doing right.
Last night, I single-handedly completely unasembled and reassembled the basement toilet which desperately needed to be fixed. And it’s almost working at 100% now.
Even thought my house isn’t perfectly clean, it’s still an open door to anyone who needs a refuge.
I’ve surrounded myself with photos of my favorite memories and fill my home with small reminders of who I love and who I am as a person.
I allow myself to enjoy my relationships instead of only focusing on the never ending to-do list.
And I am truly enjoying life, even on the craziest of days.
Sounds to me like I’m doing just fine and should stop worrying about the haven’ts. If you’re feeling the same way, I encourage you to stop beating yourself up. Find the things you’re doing just right and focus on them. It’s the only way you’ll get through this crazy little thing called life in one piece.